Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Un-telling.

Finding out we were pregnant was 100% the best day of our lives.  We told several people (including all of you), and had big plans to tell our parents and some other family over Fourth of July weekend.  The only reason we were waiting to tell them was so we would be able to do it in person.  There's a lot of people that don't tell about a pregnancy until they're further along, in case something happens, and I completely understand that train of thought.  "Un-telling" was extremely painful, and I'll never forget that feeling of crying and shaking so hard you can't catch your breath.  

But I'm glad we told.  Honestly, my biggest regret is not having gotten the chance to tell our parents and other family before we miscarried.  It's a very personal decision, but for me, telling people early, having them be excited along with us, and also, having them share our grief in a strange way validates our feelings.  Having their support and understanding means the world to me. 

I'm glad we told.  I'm glad we got to excitedly share our news with people we loved.  And I'm glad that we are not the only ones that got a chance to love our baby.

 

4 comments:

  1. It's so hard having to explain...I had people who had heard about my pregnancy from other people and we're still coming up and congratulating me after I had miscarried, unaware.

    I hated having to tell them that I had lost the baby and that there wasn't anything to congratulate me for anymore.

    It's horrible.

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  2. Oh sweetie.. oh my goodness.. I am so so sorry. *hug*

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  3. I appreciate your honesty as you walk through this. Praying for you guys.

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  4. I'm so so sorry to read this. We had to tell quite a few people after my miscarriage in March. Not a ton, but our families and close friends. It is absolutely terrible and I wish nobody had to do it. I'm sorry :(

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